GroomME Monday -- To Get a Husband, Carry Yourself Like You're Already Married

A number of women have commented to me that they have worn fake wedding or engagement rings to deter guys from hitting on them. Some of you are probably thinking Great Problem To Have Huh?  What these women realize is the importance of quality over quantity.  Men of substance typically don't go after women blindly.  They discretely check with a qualified network of friends and associates before making a move.  You may never know they are checking you out.  But rest assure that you are being judged by the comapny you keep; the girlfriends you hang out with; the men you've dated before and how you handle your social life with discretion.  So instead of wearing a disguise, focus on preparing yourself to welcome legitimate inquiries.  It's like your personal open house:  the smell of cookies in the oven makes a favorable impression.  Watch how successfully married women carry themselves.  Aspire to model yourself like them.

That's why some women are fortunate to have married successive husbands.  A widow, or divorcee can be attractive to many Mr. Rights.  If a woman has well-behaved, achieving kids; she responsibly handles her household and sincerely welcomes his interest in her -- she may be perceived as being more stable, family-oriented and economically sound.  Mr. Rights typically do not need to have biological children; they are more than happy helping to raise someone else's.  They are looking at a shorter window before stepchildren leave the home, and women who have been married are not overly concerned with superficial concerns.  Also, they do not come into the relationship ready to get pregnant immediately following marriage.  This can be a pressure cooker for any man to handle.   

So instead of trying to be unique and stand out as a high-maintenance diva, look at women who work hard at being successful mothers and/or act responsibly.

Let us Pray:  Lord please search my heart and prepare me to receive the mate you have for my life.  Please show me what I need to change in myself and give me the courage to step out on faith to make your plan complete.  In Jesus' name. 

TIP:  Purchase an inexpensive candy dish for your desk at the office and fill it with beef jerky, licorice or unsalted almonds.  Men will find your desk a place of refuge because your snacks will not compromise their ability to stay slim and trim.  This will also let them know how much you value fitness.   

God Bless