SUNDAY IS YOUR BEST DAY TO FIND YOUR HUSBAND! Here's How --

Finding a husband is an art form.  And Sunday is the best day of the week to catch the attention of your Mr. Right.  There are two reasons for this:  First, you are typically looking your best to catch his eye and secondly, he is in the frame of mind to be most charitable with his time. 

Men of substance are yearning for family and connection on Sunday.   Eating alone, sitting in church by himself and interacting with married men they admire in church can be very intimidating. 

Think about it, for a man of substance, he can’t show up at church with a different woman every Sunday – it paints a very negative image.  Oftentimes, in lieu of attending the service itself, men will opt to be ushers or attendants to avoid sitting alone.  Remember in my novel: “What A Fool Believes” how uncomfortable Sean was while waiting in the sanctuary for Chaunte’?  Take note, you have an advantage and can easily make him feel welcome.

Following are tips you can use to catch his eye:

1. Introduce yourself and compliment him on his commitment to service and his faith.  Tell him you’d like to treat him to coffee and learn more about how you can get involved or share common interests. 
2. Notice his tie or ask him about his watch.  If he wears great shoes compliment him on his style and let him know you are taking notice. 
3. Church is a place for fellowship so even though friendly hugs and hollow kisses are the norm; you don’t want to lay the charm on too thick.  You’ll be seeing him every Sunday so spread the attention out over a number of weeks.  It’s not like you have to zoom in on one single guy.  You can charm the socks off several guys at a time. 

Did you realize that Mr. Rights run in packs?

Sunday is a great time to observe which guys are hanging out with each other.  Married and single guys play golf together; work in the same offices; go to Men’s Prayer Groups and often know intimate details about each other.  An upstanding married man can often provide the 411 on your Mr. Right. 

Also, guys with common interests typically dress similarly, have similar physiques and purchase the same toys.  Just know that guys are very competitive.  When I see my buddies getting fit or making money; I make sure I am hitting the gym more and upping my game to keep up.  Success models success and you want to be a part of the success circle. 

Your Mr. Right Wants a Wife Like Her?

He’s watching.  His buddies’ wives are his benchmark for what he ultimately wants in a wife.  So you should watch the wives of his friends and notice the women he seems particularly interested in.  A great husband will treat his wife like royalty.  Once you catch his eye, he will target this royal treatment towards you.  Notice the wives he admires.  What type of jewelry are they wearing? Two carats? Three?  More? Are they looking haggard or are they happy? Louboutins or Payless?  Is “no hair out of place” or is it all over their heads?    Are the kids polite; is dad attentive to them.  Remember birds of a feather flock together.  Watch and learn.

Let me know how you are doing.  We’re in this together.

Groom ME Daily: SATURDAY'S HERE -- WHY DON"T YOU HAVE A DATE!

Groom ME Daily: SATURDAY'S HERE -- WHY DON"T YOU HAVE A DATE!: "If you want a husband, you have to get out there and socialize. When you're marketing any product, including yourself (duh: yeah you -- you..."

SATURDAY'S HERE -- WHY DON"T YOU HAVE A DATE!

If you want a husband, you have to get out there and socialize.  When you're marketing any product, including yourself (duh: yeah you -- you are a product) you have to promote it.  So your first goal is to make us want you.  I am not preparing you to waste your time with any ol' dude with a pulse; we're going for your Mr. Right -- the top shelf guy with the following characteristics:  

1.   God Fearing -- Yeah he says grace over our food and he prays over his family.  He loves his mother and respects her.  So he wants a wife who understands.  Are you his potential wife?  We'll see.  Let's find out.

2.  Rich -- He looks great and makes lots of money.  Surprised? Probably -- because you have been looking in all the wrong places.  He doesn't hang out in clubs.  He likes sports but could take or leave them.  He occasionally hangs out in bars but he sneaks out before it gets too late.  Why haven't you met him?  Because he doesn't wear his wealth on his sleeve.  He drives a Honda but lives in a neighborhood that's very expensive.  You will only be invited to his home after you pass muster.  Is this too hard for you? I'll teach you how to scope him out.  You don't have the right tools yet so you haven't found him.

3. Dates Discretely -- He doesn't like random women.  You may have spoken with him casually but never scratched the surface of a real conversation.  If you did you'd find out that he likes women with simple sophistication.  They may be a little older; richer than him but not silly like you.  These women make him spaghetti; like to spoon on the sofa; give him counsel on his business and they share wine in private. He trusts those who don't want or need his money.  But he's generous to a fault once you get under his skin.  He likes the smell of expensive candles, loves peek-a-boo lingerie and cashmere socks.  His pocket square cost $100 so don't insult him with a key chain or bottle of cheap wine.  Are you ready to up-your-game? 

4. Turn-ons -- He loves the fact you're independent.  But not too independent because he wants to dazzle you with his intelligence, needs to feel needed and seeks your approval and advice.  He will teach you something new but if you know everything he will pass you by.  He doesn't care about your weight.  Don't judge him like your girlfriends judge you.  Simple elegance turns him on -- not too much cleavage, nothing too tight -- but tasteful and sexy.  Opt for skirts in lieu of pants; heels in lieu of flats; sporty well-done hair that is consistent -- no matter the length.  He loves manicured nails because he manicures his. His business requires him to be well-groomed so you must be consistently on point.  Smell good; drape yourself in natural fabrics, the finest leathers you can afford. 

5.  Hobbies -- He loves to cook, buys great furniture and owns a watch that's worth more than his car.  His shirts may be custom made so get used to boxes coming for him in the mail.  His shoes come from Italy and Spain; his watch is worth more than his car.  He won't admire you for ripping the sticker off your car and racking up tons of debt.  You will find him living in a great neighborhood pruning trees, running his dogs and writing books. He plants flowers; tracks stocks and hangs out at car dealerships test-driving cars he's too cheap to buy.  He's up on the latest stereo equipment and electronics.  He's your accountant, doctor, veterinarian, or dry cleaner.  He's every guy you meet on the street but with the right filter you'll recognize him right away.  Sound boring? Probably but get to know him and you may learn something new.

6. He Loves Sex -- I mean love love loves sex.  But guess what -- he knows you love it too.  And he expects you to make him wait even when he'll try to convince you otherwise.  Look, we have mothers and sisters and we live by a double standard.   He'll want to push you to the sexual edge and blow your mind; and he'll leave you hot and bothered after a steamy, passionate kiss.  So if you want a husband -- hook him and tease him but don't bed him unless you are willing to suffer the consequences.  Guess what: If he wants you badly enough, he'll fly you to Vegas and marry you in three months.  Be prepared -- get your white dress ready.  But also, get ready for the craziest, freakiest mind-blowing sex you've ever imagined.  He'll want to please you.  Just make him feel pretty and don't cheat on him.  Trust goes a long way!

So now that you know what waiting for you -- Are you ready for this?  Nearly everyday you'll receive a new tip; a plan of action.  In no time Groom ME will do just that, GROOM YOU!

ACTION:

Call a guy you barely know and tell him you need his advice on one of the following:
1. Desire for a golf or personal trainer
2. Looking for a car like the brand he drives
3. Looking to purchase or refinance your home and seek his advice. 

Invite him for coffee.

Tell us your results.